Meet A Mom: Meet Amber Montee Integrated Love, Sex and Relationship Coach
Child(ren) and Age(s)?
I have 6 children….13, 13, 12, 10, 8, 5…2 girls and 4 boys.
One thing people would be surprised to know about you…
I was getting my PhD in clinical psychology and was a year shy of completing the program when my mother was involved in a head on car accident and was in the hospital for a very long time so I left the program to be with her and take care of my
children full-time. Since then I stated a swimwear line and had my own fashion shows at Mercedes Benz Fashion week Miami, was featured in Sports Illustrated, and picked up by some large swimwear apparel accounts.
Favorite local activities to do with your family?
We are a very active family and will often be found outside. We waterski and wakeboard every summer and travel together….we have gone on some amazing vacations…yacht, dude ranch, Hawaii, ect…but one of our favorite places to go is our annual avila beach trip. They also love camping or going on a houseboat in Lake Shasta.
Are you involved in a business venture, a local organization, a creative endeavor, or in the corporate world? Please share!
Not only do I work with women and their physical bodies through pilates, I also coach women and walk them through a delicate process of looking at their sexual nature and how their sexuality impacts their everyday life. The coaching work I do tends to be very deep and powerful…I am able to serve as a guide for women as they look at themselves and grow through transitions and move through pain or sadness. As a coach, I believe our “issues are in our tissues” and coaching helps us tap into the emotions that prevent us from living a full and passionate life. Unlike traditional talk therapy, coaching blends breath-work, self-love, identifying what truly holds us back and what is going on for us in a deeply profound way. It helps us be the best versions of ourselves and to become truly aligned with our fullest and most complete self. Click here to check out my different coaching options!
I also have two pipe dreams….to have a national voice for women and moms and help them learn to embody their inner and true authentic self as well as their sexy side, and to write a book about all of the information I have gathered in my own life and my own journey into motherhood and all that it entails while at the same time nurturing and honoring my inner goddess. You can find me on my website….ambermontee.com
What is the best advice for juggling mommyhood and running a business (or volunteering, working, etc.)?
Its all about a balance and self care. Self care comes in many forms and I think the one form that is very regularly overlooked is our sexual nature and our own sexual pleasure. Children sap so much out of you at all stages and ages….when they are
young, its very psychically exhausting, and when they are teenagers its extremely mentally taxing which also transmutes as physical exhaustion. One way to help fill that mommy cup up is to get as much as sleep as possible, even if that means
napping when baby naps. I also think its so important to take time to bring pleasure into your everyday life. Do a sexy dance in front of the mirror, stroke your hair in the sun, close your eyes and feel the warm breeze on your skin, take a hot bath and
put coconut oil and your favorite sensual essential oil in it. My favorite quick, easy, and super effective way to bring pleasure into my everyday life is to rub coconut oil on my body in the most delicious way after every shower I take. It helps bring me into the present moment, serves as a form of meditations, feels really good, and it helps me tap into my sexual side- which is such a source of strength and power for women if they let it be.
How has the Mom Community been instrumental to getting you where you are now?
We all process things differently….and for those of us who are verbal processors, connecting with other moms is truly invaluable. When I was pregnant with twins I reached out to a moms of multiples group and I joined them as soon as I gave birth and that was one of the best choices I made after becoming a mom. I was 24 years olds when I had my twins and I was so beyond overwhelmed. Connecting with other women who had “been there and done that” made me realize I was going to be ok- although I felt overwhelmed, I realized I was just in a transition. The transition to motherhood is one of the hardest and eye awakening process a woman can go through and connecting to other moms helps tremendously.
What would you tell the old “You” before you had kids?
Your metabolism changes no matter what you do so enjoy eating like a horse while you can!
Funniest shortcut/routine for helping you through parenthood?
I always tell my children, ”many hands makes for light work”…meaning we are all part of a family so they all have to pitch in and help around the house. They pack their own lunches every night before bed and the older kids are expected to help the
younger children when needed. If you only have 1 or 2 children the same applies.