Parenting News You Can Use by Deborah Fry, Ph.D. | West University Moms

Welcome! In this issue by Deborah Fry, Ph.D.,

1.   How to Stay Calm When You Know You Will Be Stressed

2.   How to Train Yourself to Stay Focused

3.   Setting Empathic Limits Calmly

4.   Ending Mom Shaming

5.   Where Deborah is speaking in September/October!

6.   Redirecting Children’s Behavior Course Schedule Fall 2017



Most parents express a strong desire to remain calm when their children “misbehave”.  They wish to respond from a place of serenity rather than becoming a ballistic mess.  This issue of Parenting News is about staying calm, even when you are stressed.  Becoming serene in the face of challenges is a practice.  Stick with it!

1.  How to Stay Calm When You Know You will Be Stressed

Neuroscientist Daniel Levitin says that you experience cloudy thinking when stressed.  Your brain releases cortisol, which impairs rational, logical thinking.  He suggests in this TEDTalk that we put systems in place to assist when our thinking is cloudy.  That applies to parenting.  When you have a plan for handling typical challenges with your child, you will increase your chances of responding in the calm way you prefer.

How do you deal with a bully without becoming a thug? In this wise and soulful talk, peace activist Scilla Elworthy maps out the skills we need — as nations and individuals — to fight extreme force without using force in return. To answer the question of why and how nonviolence works, she evokes historical heroes — Aung San Suu Kyi, Mahatma Gandhi, Nelson Mandela — and the personal philosophies that powered their peaceful protests.This This

2.  How to Train Yourself to Stay Focused

Part of remaining calm is staying focused on your relationship with your child and on your plan while experiencing triggers.  Leo Babauta of ZenHabits has a system for training yourself to remain focused.  This is a wonderful skill for your children to practice, too.

3.  Setting Empathic Limits Calmly

Dr. Laura Markham of AHA! Parenting walks us in detail through the conversation to have while setting empathic limits with your child.  Having a script is having a plan.  It can help you diffuse and stay focused in challenging moments.  Read all about it here.     

4.  Ending Mom Shaming

One of the most stressful experiences for parents is handling issues with their children in public.  There are the stares and judgements from others as your child melts down in the middle of the mall.  Read Amy’s take from her blogThe Thoughtful Parent, on ways to end and deal with mom shaming. 


Where is Deborah Speaking in September/ October?

Sept 28, 2017 @ 9:15 AM

“Introduction to Redirecting Children’s Behavior”

St. Paul’s Methodist

5501 Main St 77004

Debra Fischer, Preschool Director, 713-528-6779

October 4, 2017 @ 9:15 AM 

 “No I Won’t You Can’t Make Me”- Power Struggles

Bethany Christian Church

3223 Westheimer 77098

Vivian Holtz, Preschool Director, 713-524-0092

Redirecting Children’s Behavior: The Gentle Art of Parenting


This six-week, fifteen-hour course teaches parents how to help children grow in a way that enhances self-esteem,

teaches responsibility and promotes cooperation and self-mastery.  At the completion, you will be able to:

 * Discipline without yelling          * Interact to build self-es

 * Reduce sibling rivalry                * Develop a sense of responsibility

 * Redirect mistaken goals          * Create an encouraging family


Redirecting Children’s Behavior Course Schedule for Fall 2017:


9821 Timberside Dr.

Houston, TX, 77025

FREE INTRO TALKWed. eve, Sept 13th, 6:00- 7:30 PM

Redirecting Children’s Behavior Course

6 Wed. eves; 6:00-8:30 PM

Sept. 27 Oct. 4, 11, 18, 25, Nov. 1


BETHANY CHRISTIAN CHURCH                                   

3223 Westheimer

Houston, TX 77098

FREE INTRO TALK: Wed. morning, Oct. 4th, 9:15 to 10:15 AM

6 Wed. mornings; 9:15-11:45 AM                                      

 Oct. 11, 15, 25, Nov. 1, 8, 15



5501 Main Street

Houston, TX 77004

FREE INTRO TALK: Tuesday morning, Sept. 28th, 9:15-10:15 AM

Redirecting Children’s Behavior Course

6 Thurs. mornings; 9:15-11:45 AM

Oct. 12, 19, 26, Nov. 2, 9, 16,


3471 Westheimer
Houston, TX.  77027

Course Fee: $245/one, $345/couple – Private parent coaching: $175/hr.  – Pediatric Sleep Coaching:  $175/hr.

Redirecting Children’s Behavior Course
6 Thurs. eves; 6:30-9:00 PM   

Oct. 12, 19, 26, Nov. 2, 9, 16


NANNY/CAREGIVER CLASS (Redirecting For Nannies/Caregivers Only)           


4600 Bissonnet

Bellaire, TX. 77401

4 Tues. mornings; 9:15-10:45 AM 

Nov. 7, 14, skip 21st, 28, Nov. 5                  Fee nanny class: $150 per person/ $275 for tw

The courses listed above will be taught by Deborah Fry Ph.D.; C.P.E.   For information and registration

please call Deborah at 713-840-8663 or register online @

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