Welcome! In this issue by Deborah Fry, Ph.D.,
1. How to Stay Calm When You Know You Will Be Stressed
2. How to Train Yourself to Stay Focused
3. Setting Empathic Limits Calmly
4. Ending Mom Shaming
5. Where Deborah is speaking in September/October!
6. Redirecting Children’s Behavior Course Schedule Fall 2017
Welcome!
Most parents express a strong desire to remain calm when their children “misbehave”. They wish to respond from a place of serenity rather than becoming a ballistic mess. This issue of Parenting News is about staying calm, even when you are stressed. Becoming serene in the face of challenges is a practice. Stick with it!
1. How to Stay Calm When You Know You will Be Stressed
Neuroscientist Daniel Levitin says that you experience cloudy thinking when stressed. Your brain releases cortisol, which impairs rational, logical thinking. He suggests in this TEDTalk that we put systems in place to assist when our thinking is cloudy. That applies to parenting. When you have a plan for handling typical challenges with your child, you will increase your chances of responding in the calm way you prefer.
How do you deal with a bully without becoming a thug? In this wise and soulful talk, peace activist Scilla Elworthy maps out the skills we need — as nations and individuals — to fight extreme force without using force in return. To answer the question of why and how nonviolence works, she evokes historical heroes — Aung San Suu Kyi, Mahatma Gandhi, Nelson Mandela — and the personal philosophies that powered their peaceful protests.This This
2. How to Train Yourself to Stay Focused
Part of remaining calm is staying focused on your relationship with your child and on your plan while experiencing triggers. Leo Babauta of ZenHabits has a system for training yourself to remain focused. This is a wonderful skill for your children to practice, too.
3. Setting Empathic Limits Calmly
Dr. Laura Markham of AHA! Parenting walks us in detail through the conversation to have while setting empathic limits with your child. Having a script is having a plan. It can help you diffuse and stay focused in challenging moments. Read all about it here.
4. Ending Mom Shaming
One of the most stressful experiences for parents is handling issues with their children in public. There are the stares and judgements from others as your child melts down in the middle of the mall. Read Amy’s take from her blog, The Thoughtful Parent, on ways to end and deal with mom shaming.
Where is Deborah Speaking in September/ October?
“Introduction to Redirecting Children’s Behavior”
St. Paul’s Methodist
5501 Main St 77004
Debra Fischer, Preschool Director, 713-528-6779
October 4, 2017 @ 9:15 AM
“No I Won’t You Can’t Make Me”- Power Struggles
Bethany Christian Church
3223 Westheimer 77098
Vivian Holtz, Preschool Director, 713-524-0092
Redirecting Children’s Behavior: The Gentle Art of Parenting
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This six-week, fifteen-hour course teaches parents how to help children grow in a way that enhances self-esteem,
teaches responsibility and promotes cooperation and self-mastery. At the completion, you will be able to:
* Discipline without yelling * Interact to build self-es
* Reduce sibling rivalry * Develop a sense of responsibility
* Redirect mistaken goals * Create an encouraging family
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Redirecting Children’s Behavior Course Schedule for Fall 2017:
ST. CATHERINE’S MONTESSORI
9821 Timberside Dr.
Houston, TX, 77025
FREE INTRO TALK: Wed. eve, Sept 13th, 6:00- 7:30 PM
Redirecting Children’s Behavior Course
6 Wed. eves; 6:00-8:30 PM
Sept. 27 Oct. 4, 11, 18, 25, Nov. 1
BETHANY CHRISTIAN CHURCH
3223 Westheimer
Houston, TX 77098
FREE INTRO TALK: Wed. morning, Oct. 4th, 9:15 to 10:15 AM
6 Wed. mornings; 9:15-11:45 AM
Oct. 11, 15, 25, Nov. 1, 8, 15
ST. PAUL’S SCHOOL
5501 Main Street
Houston, TX 77004
FREE INTRO TALK: Tuesday morning, Sept. 28th, 9:15-10:15 AM
Redirecting Children’s Behavior Course
6 Thurs. mornings; 9:15-11:45 AM
Oct. 12, 19, 26, Nov. 2, 9, 16,
ST. LUKE’S METHODIST WEEKDAY SCHOOLS
3471 Westheimer
Houston, TX. 77027
Course Fee: $245/one, $345/couple – Private parent coaching: $175/hr. – Pediatric Sleep Coaching: $175/hr.
Redirecting Children’s Behavior Course
6 Thurs. eves; 6:30-9:00 PM
Oct. 12, 19, 26, Nov. 2, 9, 16
NANNY/CAREGIVER CLASS (Redirecting For Nannies/Caregivers Only)
THE POST OAK SCHOOL
4600 Bissonnet
Bellaire, TX. 77401
4 Tues. mornings; 9:15-10:45 AM
Nov. 7, 14, skip 21st, 28, Nov. 5 Fee nanny class: $150 per person/ $275 for tw
The courses listed above will be taught by Deborah Fry Ph.D.; C.P.E. For information and registration
please call Deborah at 713-840-8663 or register online @ www.deborah-fry.com